Is anyone else having a weird or emotional summer or is it just me? It feels like I’ve been under the spell of a full moon for about a month now. At times, when we think we’re not brave or ready enough to take the leap, the Universe has a way of pushing us over the edge to show us just how strong we are.
Parenting is no joke. It's hard and messy and nobody ever gets it perfectly. EVER! We love our children so much that we want nothing more than to ensure their health and happiness. We do this by trying to provide them with a better environment than the one we grew up in and affording them possibilities that weren't an option for us.
Many parents spend too much time focusing on rules and getting their children to obey and comply. Somewhere along our parenting journey, we’ve picked up various ideas of what discipline should look like. Some of those ideas came from books, some came from our closest friends and what worked for them, but most of our parenting style and image of what raising children should look like directly came from how we were raised and our childhood experiences.
If left to its own devices, anxiety can make us feel disconnected from ourselves and the rest of the world. When we're anxious, we tend to be in our head a lot. Our breath becomes shallow and out of sync with our body. Once this happens, our nervous system kicks into high gear and further feeds our anxiety. The most effective way to stop anxiety is by connecting to our breath.
Many parents embark on their parenting journey unaware of why their children's behavior trigger them the way it often does. Teenagers, especially, seem to know exactly how to get under our skin. They push every button and trigger parts of us we’d rather not admit. In the end, we’re left feeling out of control and exhausted.
Teens push boundaries, talk back, slam doors, and change their moods as fast as the wind. But what most worn out parents don't understand is that teens are not inherently defiant. Although at times it may feel like their sole mission is to help you keep the wine industry in business, it's simply not who they are.
On a daily basis, parents all over the world ask me what seems to be the million-dollar question, “How can I connect with my defiant and hormonal teenager?”
Instead of providing them with a cookie cutter answer, instead, I ask them what their biggest fear is as a parent.
The collective answer always boils down to this...
Have you ever thought about your parenting style? How about your partner’s? What does it mean? And how does it affect your relationship with your teen?
Click HERE to take the parenting style quiz and find out how you may be affecting your teen's behavior.
Understanding the manner in which you parent offers insight to understanding the roots behind why you parent in the way you do, as well as insight to your child’s behavior on how to improve your relationship with your them
Do you parent with an iron first? Or are you more lenient? Or do you find yourself somewhere in the middle?
I’ve been on this journey of self-discovery and improvement for quite some time now and as with any process of diving deep into our own story, a lot of fears tend to pop up. And I do mean a lot. Like to the point of believing that I now have every mental disorder ever identified...